Sacrifice is one of the purest and most selfless ways to love someone. There is no better way to show one’s loyalty or love for another than through sacrifice. The Kite Runner clearly demonstrates the sacrifices individuals made to make the ones they love happy.
In Khaled Hosseini’s novel The Kite Runner, a little boy named Hassan demonstrates love and sacrifice the most. Hassan admires Amir an immense amount and his loyalty towards Amir is always present in everything he does. He constantly sacrifices things for Amir and does whatever he can to make Amir happy and Amir’s father Baba, very proud of Amir. Hassan makes sure Amir is always pleased and does anything and everything Amir tells him to do. Hassan has an unconditional love and loyalty towards Amir that he does not falter no matter how badly Amir treats him. Hassan is absolutely selfless; to a point where he sacrifices himself for the one thing he knows Amir has craved his whole life, his father’s admiration. When Hassan goes running for the blue kite, Amir asks him to come back with it and Hassan replies “ For you a thousand times over!” (pg.71). Hassan has two choices; to give the blue kite, which will consequently betray his best friend Amir, or to be punished by Assef and his friends and keep the kite. His devoted love to Amir results in a horrible sacrifice. Hassan gets raped and does not even think twice about giving up the blue kite, the key to Baba’s heart. He stays loyal to Amir even though he pays a hard price.
Hassan has always taken the blame for things Amir does or farthings Amir makes Hassan do. Hassan being the selfless person he is never speaks up for himself knowing that will only get his dear friend Amir in trouble. Hassan’s final sacrifice for Amir is deliberately planned by Amir himself. Amir cannot withstand the pain and guilt of knowing that he does nothing to help Hassan from getting raped; he is selfish and a coward. He is reminded of this every time he looks at Hassan. He thinks if he can find a way to make Hassan and his father the servants of their house, Ali will then leave and rid him of his guilt and suffering. So he plants his new watch under Hassan’s bed and then accuses Hassan of stealing it. Knowing that Hassan will never disappoint him. He waits for Hassan to respond when Baba asks him if this is true. “Did you steal that money? Did you steal Amir’s watch, Hassan?” Hassan lies … “yes” (pg.111) this is another significant event where Hassan put Amir before himself selflessly.
Baba Is always perceived as a wise man with strong morals and opinions in “The Kite Runner”. He is not a coward nor selfish, he stands up for what he believes is right and Baba is a very brave man. This is displayed when he sacrifices his life for a woman he does not know. He stands up and says, “Tell him I’ll take a thousand of his bullets before I let this indecency take place”. (Pg. 122) This act stops a Russian soldier from raping a woman that is carrying a baby on their way to America. This shows the love Baba has in his heart to help this woman from a terrible event that would have taken place if he had not stopped it. He has shown love and sacrifice for women he does not know and that shows his good character and bravery.
Although Amir had feels his father never appreciated him enough his father makes a big sacrifice for Amir. With the war-taking place in Afghanistan, Baba knows it will not be a safe place for Amir to grow up and knows he has to do something about it. He leaves everything he has behind. He sacrifices everything he has for Amir, all his belongings, and his house, and where he grew up. He leaves his life behind so Amir can have a happy and safe life in America. He does not like America but he knows it is best for Amir. He puts Amir before himself, demonstrating another one of Baba’s selfless acts.
Throughout the novel, Amir has some very negative personality traits. He is selfish, demanding, cowardly, disrespectful and jealous. He does not seem like the type of person that will do something for another out of the kindness of their heart. He always thinks about himself and what he wants. He has never sacrificed anything for the people he loves. Growing up with the memory of Hassan’s rape still fresh in his mind like a situation that has just unfolded has finally opened his eyes and makes him realize he needs to be brave for once in his life. So Amir acts. He goes back to Afghanistan to find Hassan’s son, Sohrab. Rahim Khan’s advice, “There is a way to be good again” (pg.2) helps Amir to put his feelings into action. Assef, now a Taliban officer, beats Amir up badly, but this, heals Amir of his wrong doings from the past and he takes Sohrab back to America with him to live a good life. Amir finally puts someone before himself after all the sacrifices Hassan has made for him in the past. This shows the love and sacrifice he makes for Hassan’s child knowing it is the only way he can ever repay Hassan for the years of mistreatment in their childhood.
The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini demonstrates a very good lesson on sacrifice and love. The novel is a perfect example of the ways Jesus shows us how to live our lives. “There is no greater love than to lay ones life down for a friend”.
"Sacrificing your happiness for the happiness of the one you love is by far the truest type of love." Unknown
"A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it." Oscar Wilde
The need for sacrifices and compromises is often mentioned in discussions of romantic relationships. Are the two the same and if not, which of the two is most needed in romantic relationships? According to Romantic Ideology, love is frequently described as involving sacrifices and resisting compromises. In reality, the situation is typically the opposite-relationships require fewer sacrifices and more compromises.
To sacrifice is to give up something precious in order to gain or maintain something, such as a valuable relationship or some other worthy cause. Thus, we say that some women sacrifice their careers for their family. The term "sacrifice" is often used in religious contexts referring to the act of offering something precious to a deity, such as the sacrificial murder of a victim. As Romantic Ideology has certain aspects in common with religious beliefs, the term "sacrifice" is frequently used in romantic contexts as well. Intense love has no qualms about making considerable sacrifices.
To compromise is to give up the pursuit of a better prospect in order not to risk an existing situation, even if it is perceived to be somewhat worse than the prospect that is relinquished. Although the prospect might be better and even considered feasible, the person decides not to pursue it.
The realm of sacrifice is in the actual realm; the realm of compromise is in the possible and imaginary realm. Sacrifice entails actual deeds and losses. One cannot sacrifice in one's mind what one does not have in reality. Compromise typically entails inaction and possible losses, which are constantly reconsidered in our minds.
Compromises are loaded with intense emotional aspects and are harder to bear, as they involve unfinished business that could alter the existing situation. Sacrifices deal with actual and concrete actions. Like other actions, their consequences can be positive or negative but once completed, they are over and tend not to carry a significant emotional load.
We are typically excited by things that are incomplete, unsettled, unexplained, or uncertain, as we perceive them to be unusual and so they demand our attention and thoughts. Once the situation is settled and established, there is no reason for the mental system to be on the alert and invest further resources. Courtship, flirting, extramarital affairs and cyberlove are exciting because they seem in a sense to be unfinished business.
When compromising, you give up something that you want and might in fact attain; when sacrificing, you give up something that you actually have. In this regard it is worthwhile to compare the relationship between compromise and sacrifice to that between envy and jealousy. When envious, you want something that you do not have and when jealous, you fear losing something precious that you have (such as an intimate relationship) to someone else. Jealousy is typically more painful as it is harder to lose something personal that is already yours (especially when the loss is to a rival) than to fail to gain something that has never been yours. The situation in the compromise-sacrifice pair is the opposite: The potential loss has greater negative significance than the actual loss.
A major difference between the envy-jealousy pair and the compromise-sacrifice pair is that the situations of the former pair are forced upon us by external circumstances beyond our control, whereas in the latter pair we choose those circumstances.
The actual loss in jealousy is against the wish of the agent and refers to a most sensitive personal aspect-the loss of a very intimate lover. Hence, it is more painful than envy where the potential loss is less feasible and less personal. In sacrifice, the actual loss is chosen by the agent and it refers to something with which the agent believes she can cope.
The potential loss in compromise is more emotionally painful because it involves unfinished business; the person might not accept the compromise and might be constantly aware of its negative aspects. Sacrifice is less emotional as the person has willingly made it and has no further doubts concerning its value and necessity, unless the person begins to regret it. Sacrifice is so natural among lovers that they are sometimes even not aware of it. The typical emotion associated with compromise is frustration, while sacrifice is often associated with sympathy and compassion. The regret about missing a valuable opportunity is present typically in compromise and not in sacrifice.
The decision to make a sacrifice is taken in light of the great benefit for the other person or for the relationship, while the decision to compromise is mainly taken out of fear of the risk and potential damage in pursuing the alternative. In compromise, the agent still believes in the greater value of the possible alternative and hence does not fully accept the existing situation. Accordingly, when making sacrifices people may not even stop to consider why they should make the sacrifice for their beloved. When making compromises, however, a sense of unfinished business can prevail and people might continue to doubt the value of the compromise and continue to yearn for the alternative. This will continue until they accommodate themselves to the new situation and no longer see it as entailing a compromise. Hence, compromises typically involve more emotional repercussions than do sacrifices.
Loving relationships involve both sacrifices and compromises. The sacrifices are easier to live with and lovers attempt to accommodate to their compromises and no longer view them as such. So although sacrifices and compromises are prevalent in romantic relationships, in genuine love they are not experienced as such.
The above considerations can be encapsulated in the following statement that a lover might express: "Darling, please sacrifice something for me so that I know that you love me, and in return I will stop considering you as the major compromise of my life."